Last updated: 21 June 2026. Governed by the New Zealand Privacy Act 2020.
The way Get Closer handles your data is genuinely unusual. Here's why it works the way it does.
Your first name and email address. We use these to send you content you've asked for and to identify your account. That's it.
Only if you ask us to. The exception is the magic link we send when you log in — that's how login works, not marketing. Beyond that, you choose what you want to hear about when you sign up — new articles, research studies, events in New Zealand. You can turn any of them off at any time on your settings page. It takes effect instantly. We never send emails you haven't opted into.
We use magic links because they're simpler. No passwords to forget or manage. But that's not the main reason your data works the way it does.
Because if they did, anyone with access to your account or our database could link your kinks to your email. Your kinks are backed up automatically — but the backup is attached to a random token, not your account or email. If someone logs into your account from another device, they see nothing sensitive. Your kinks don't travel with your login.
No. Logging out ends your session — you'll need to log back in. But your kinks, reads, bookmarks, and drivers stay in this browser exactly as you left them. If you want to wipe your data from a shared device, clear your browser storage instead.
Then it's gone from this device — including your recovery token. If you want to be able to restore your data later, copy your recovery token somewhere outside your browser first. Your data is backed up automatically as you use the site, so as long as you have the token saved, you can restore everything on any device.
They can log in. They'll see your notification preferences and nothing else. Your kinks, reads, bookmarks, and driver responses exist only in this browser. If you have a recovery token saved somewhere they can also access, they could find it and either learn your token or delete it. Worth keeping in mind where you store it.
Not directly. Your data is backed up automatically, but the backup is attached to a random token — not your account or email. We have no way to identify whose data it is, so we can't send it to you. If we emailed it, your email provider and any third party with inbox access could read it anyway. Your recovery token is the only key. Keep it somewhere safe outside your browser.
No. It doesn't expire, and it survives account deletion. If you ever need to close your account and come back later, your data will be waiting. Keep the token somewhere safe outside your browser — treat it like a password.
We can see the backup — it's in our database. We just have no idea who it belongs to. It's a random list of kinks attached to a random token. There's no name, no email, no account. Just stuff.
A public count of how many people have tapped "this is my kink" for that term. It's stored as a plain number — no names, no accounts, nothing personal attached. A note in your browser stops the same device incrementing it more than once.
You need an account to create a share link, but nothing from your account goes into it. The link is stored against a randomly generated ID created in your browser — no connection to your login or email. Share links aren't listed or discoverable anywhere on the site. Only people you send the link to can see it. For extra privacy, use a nickname if you choose to include your name — something sweet, something dirty, we don't care.
We verify the link is valid and pass the list to your browser. Public links stay active and can be opened as many times as the sender wants. Private links delete themselves the moment you open them — no trace left, and no way for anyone to forward a list that isn't theirs. If someone tries to forward a private link after it's already been opened, the next person gets an error. The list is gone.
Either way, when you open a link the contents are saved to your device. If you're logged in, they're stored in a way that keeps them separate from any other account on the same device — but that identifier never travels to our servers and can't be used to link received lists to your email address. If you're not logged in, they're held in a temporary key until your next login. This data is stored on your device and included in your anonymous backup for cross-device restore — but like everything in the backup, it's attached to a random token with no link to your account or email.
If you choose to be notified, we send you an invite when a new study opens. It's up to you whether you participate. We built our own survey system — it has no link to your account or email. Your responses are anonymous.
The information you provide is used only to respond to you. It's not stored beyond what's needed to correspond with you.
Get Closer is run by Kym, a sex and intimacy coach based in New Zealand. This policy is governed by the New Zealand Privacy Act 2020. Questions or requests can be directed to Kym at getcloser.nz@gmail.com.
No. We don't sell your personal information to anyone, ever. We don't share it with third parties except where necessary to operate the service — for example, the email provider used to send content you've subscribed to. We don't use your data for advertising or profiling. This is a site about sex. We take what you do here seriously. What you read, what you save, and what you engage with is private to you.
Three. Gmail (Google) delivers any emails you've opted into. The site is hosted on our own server via Amazon Web Services. Supabase handles our database — it stores your email address, session token, and account preferences. Kink share records and recovery token snapshots are also stored there, in separate tables with no link to your account. Their privacy policies govern how each handles data on their platforms.
No cookies. No crumbs. Everything is local storage, and only these things:
No tracking. No third-party analytics.
Under the New Zealand Privacy Act 2020, you can ask what personal information we hold about you, have it corrected if it's wrong, or ask us to delete it. You can withdraw consent at any time — unsubscribe from the mailing list or remove yourself from the research list via your account settings. Both take effect immediately. To exercise any of these rights, contact Kym directly. If you feel your rights haven't been respected, you can also contact the New Zealand Office of the Privacy Commissioner at privacy.org.nz.
If you have questions about this policy or want to exercise your privacy rights:
If you feel your privacy rights have not been respected, you can also contact the New Zealand Office of the Privacy Commissioner at privacy.org.nz.