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The articles, the glossary, the research - none of it is funded.

The questions I'm asking don't get institutional support. Kink, desire, power dynamics, the things people actually want to understand about themselves. Mainstream research won't touch it. So I do it myself, and I turn it into coaching methodologies, articles, and a glossary that treats people like adults.

If any of it has been useful to you, a contribution keeps it going.

No grants. No institutions. No agenda — just the questions nobody else is asking.

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